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I Think I Fixed It

I think comments and feed are working again now. Let me know if you have problems. Of course, now I've brought back the problem I was trying to fix in the first place, but I will have to work on that another time!

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Melody Beattie Knows My Favorite Line!

When talking about my own codependency, one of my favorite tongue-in-cheek lines (which came out of a recovery group I'm in) is: "I'll work harder!  I'll do better!  Please love me!"  Whether I forgot a birthday, miss a deadline, stick my foot squarely into my mouth (or sometimes my keyboard, as the case may be) [...]

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Summer Vacation

Image credit: Photo by emdot on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons There is a parable in the book 7 Habits of Highly Effective People about a person who works harder and harder to saw down a tree because of a perception that there is no time to stop, take a break and sharpen the saw. [...]

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Still Alive

Image credit: Photo by jcoterhals on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons After posting almost daily for over two years, I have taken my longest ever break from my space here.  I have posted a few things recently at The Second Road, but have yet to link to them from here.  I just figured I'd pop [...]

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Codependent Daydreams of Lee Harvey Oswald

Somewhere, in my recent adventures around the Internet, I came across that iconic image of Lee Harvey Oswald, Kennedy's assassin (well, unless you believe in conspiracy theories), being assassinated himself.  Kennedy was not assassinated in my lifetime, so the first time I saw Oswald's image was in an encyclopedia (anyone remember those?).  I may have [...]

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Codependency First Step Haikus

Image credit: Photo by Vu Bui on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Wind lashes the trees. The water churns angry white. I can't let this be. Sacrifice a goat. Strike a deal with the unseen. Beg storms for respite. I'm too busy to board windows, batten hatches or leave the storm's path. Against all my [...]

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Haiku for a Winter Day Long Ago

My coat's a blanket. My love, sleeping on a bus; blue wool breathes with him. Lying on the seat soft hair brushes the collar tucked under his chin. I want to paint him; freeze him, lips blue under ice; encase him in glass. He may wake sighing. Worries -- gone in sleep -- descend all [...]

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Searching for a Soulmate

Image credit: Photo by WolfS♡ul on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons When I was little, my Brownie troop went to visit a home for children with disabilities. I got the impression that somehow all of us normal kids in our spiffy uniforms were somehow supposed to cheer their lonesome lives. At some point in the [...]

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Pressure Cooking Haikus

She wanted to take her brother's most special toy, play with it roughly. He said no and screamed. Held it high so she couldn't snatch it away. She bit his arm. Hard. And in an instant he was flailing at her head. I broke them apart. He quietly left the room. She cried, then calmed [...]

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Healthy as a Second Language

Image credit: Photo by Hatters! on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons You may not realize it, but my native language is Codependent, with special fluency in the Implied Requests and "Helpful" Advice dialects. As I've worked on myself, I'm learning to communicate in ways that are healthier, not only for me, but for my relationships [...]

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