Posts under ‘understanding’

A Spoon Is Not a Spoon

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As I write this, I have a cup of tea beside me, and I am trying to get myself to drink it.  I'm not hesitating because I don't like tea or because I think it will be unpleasant.  I'm hesitating because I'm trying to drink it out [...]

Cutting Past the Crap

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I went to a great 12 Step meeting this week. A lovely group of women, some of whom I'd never met, sat together and shared the kind of things we usually share as partners of sex addicts. We share about things like incest, physically and [...]

What Autism Is Supposed to Look Like

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We took the kids to a pool party at the home of some friends of mine recently. The hosts, as well as several guests, moved a fair drive away from us several years ago, and several more guests were visiting from out of town. As [...]

The Racial Issue

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"Mama, I'm half black, half white," Janie calls to me from where she's playing in the living room.
I'd been wondering when this day would come, the day when my biracial daughter would finally notice race and start talking about herself in racial terms. Before either of [...]

In Which I Wish Addiction (and Recovery) on the World

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This weekend, for the first time in my life, I had the opportunity to hear a sex addict from my husband's recovery group speaking about his experiences. I know my husband's story, about as intimately as anyone else can; in a way, it's my story too. [...]

Dumped

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Austen's babysitter quit.
On the one hand, I don't blame her. Austen has the ability to terrorize his babysitters in a way he does no one else except delivery people, to whom he is like a very loud and aggressive dog; he wants none of them on [...]

Guest Post: Solid Footing

Today's guest post comes from Kat, a long-time blogging friend who has her own great blog at Spectrum Beach. Kat is mom to two sons: Movie Boy, who is autistic and currently in middle school and his younger brother Ben Ten. Today Kat looks back on an Easter day with Movie Boy and [...]

The Power to Carry It Out

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xkcd
(I think this may be my favorite comic ever in the history of the world.)

I (in my real life, pseudonymless state) have been participating recently in a book discussion with a group of friends online. And things have gotten heated. I have opinions. Other people have opinions. Other people [...]

The Hardest Words

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My son Austen, like many other autistic individuals, does not like (or understand the purpose of) many of society's little pleasantries. He balks at words like hello, goodbye, please, sorry and thank you; anything that can appear in a conversation as part of a [...]

What Can I Do to Help?

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Cayusa on Flickr
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Last week, in my guest post for Lisa Belkin's New York Times blog Motherlode, I wrote about some of the challenges a trip to the grocery store can present for my son Austen. Since then a number of people have very kindly commented or e-mailed asking, [...]